Are you the Queen of Stuckness?
Stuck is a story I have told myself a lot in the 4 years since starting my coaching business and I suspect I am far from alone in my stuckness.
Stuck is conveinient, it justifies procrastination, it excuses us from reaching our goals and dreams and it allows us to feel ok about mediocre results. The truth is stuck falls into 2 categories; fear or belief.
Feeling stuck happens because you are either afraid of stepping up and outside of your comfort zone or you are running a belief that you are not good enough, smart enough, lovable enough or deserving of what it is you really want.
Stuck looks like the inability to move forward no matter how hard you want to. Stuck feels like there is a part of you that just cant connect to the next step even if you know what it is. Stuck disguises itself as the feeling of being off track, not ready or just not feeling it.
Why do we stay stuck? Stuck is safe, stuck keeps you warm and toasty inside your comfort zone. Stuck means you dont have to confront the parts of you that are afraid or dont feel good. Stuck means you dont have to face disappointment or rejection or deal with what will happens if things go really well and get really big. Stuck gives you a sense of control. The real irony is that stuck actually feels like a pretty shitty place to be even though you are choosing it.
So how do you shift stuck? Getting unstuck is a choice. Its a choice you are free to make in any moment. Stuck feels like an invisible jailer and you are searching and searching for the key everywhere. The key is already in your hand. Its been there the whole time!
To Get unstuck you need to decide to use the key! The first step is to look at why you are choosing stuck. Are you afraid of your next step or are you running a belief that you cant have it?
From the safety of stuck in to fear, exhilaration and motivation….. If it its fear that is keeping your stuck it will take a little courage to make a move outside your comfort zone. Choose a tiny, tiny step and give yourself a deadline to take it. Its normal to feel fear when you step outside your comfort zome. Feeling the fear is a good sign you are on the right track and also a sign that you will very soon feel the exhilaration of being on the other side of stuck. Moving from comfort to fear to exhilaration and motivation is simply a series of very small steps. If you need some help working out what those steps are then coaching support can be invaluable here. A good coach will also be your biggest cheerleader celebrating your small steps right along side you.
From stuck beliefs to leveling up your life.…running a limiting belief can keep you stuck for a really long time. I have become so determine to seek out and shift my own and my clients limiting beliefs that last year I trained as an N.L.P coach so I would have the very best tools for change. A limiting belief is simply a glitchy program in your brain. A belief is an idea that you have taken on as your own to the point where your brain now filters information to support that belief. This doesnt mean that the belief is true. It just means you are focusing on the reasons that support it being true. Is it really true? Probably not. Take a step back and really look at your life. What is the evidence suggesting? 9 time out of 10 your life reflects the truth of who you are despite the limiting beleif you are running. You are likely more loved, smarter, more deserving and worthy than your beliefs will have you see.
NLP Coaching shifts limiting beliefs….The great news is that I can easily and quickly help you identify the exact belief that is getting in the way and then we can clear it and create a new supportive belief to replace it. Its called Neural coding and it generally takes 3 sessions to get lasting change and to see you racing out of stuck and into action.
So how are you feeling about your stuck now? It is my hope that you have some insight into what is at the bottom of it and a bit of a plan to take a step forward. If I can help in anyway please feel free to get in touch.
One last thought for you….how you are in one area of your life is affected by all areas of your life. If you dont yet feel ready to deal with the stuckness in your business then look at what else in your life is stuck. Do you have an overgrown garden? Is your wardrobe or garage full of things that need to be cleared out? this too is stuck energy and clearing a little clutter in your life will help you feel stronger about clearing the stuck in the big important and scary areas.
From the Queen of getting you Unstuck
Paula xx